10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Recover Your Happiness
Sometimes life knocks you down and you end up feeling depressed, challenged, overwhelmed, and/or stressed.
You may feel you will face that situation forever and things will never change.
Questions are powerful tools that allow you to access the deepest levels of your consciousness. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself to recover your happiness and create the life you desire and deserve!
- What would I do if I were not afraid? Fear is a useful feeling because it warns us and keeps us aware, but sometimes it takes over and prevents us from doing things. If you feel stuck, uncertain and you don’t really know which step to take, ask yourself: What would I do if I were not afraid? The answer is exactly what you need to do.
- Am I wasting time doing things that don’t matter to me? When we feel lost, it’s because we are not following our internal compass and we are just going with the flow. Stop for a minute, take a deep breath and ask yourself: Am I doing what I really want to do or am I wasting time doing things that don’t interest me? How can you incorporate more activities that are important to you and your passions?
- Do I want to be right or happy? Living in conflict creates unease in our minds and bodies. Two people who have different opinions might both be right! From each own point of view, everybody is right. Does it make sense to argue with people just for the sake of being right?
- What can I learn from my mistakes? Everybody makes mistakes and you can choose to actually learn from when things don’t go quite right or as you planned. Mistakes are lessons to learn. They are necessary to understand what needs to be changed and what can be improved. If we didn’t make mistakes, how could we make progress and evolve? Instead of judging yourself for something you did wrong, ask yourself: What can I learn from this situation? What would I do differently?
- What is the message that life is trying to communicate? Sometimes life is hard, complicated, or even cruel, but even when it’s difficult, life is always working for us, not against us. Whatever happens, it’s the necessary step to go the next level, it creates growth and awareness. Nothing is ever a punishment. Whatever you have to deal with, ask yourself: What is the message that life is trying to communicate to me? What’s happening in this situation for me?
- What makes me smile? Smiling is so simple, but so powerful. It releases all tensions, makes you feel comfortable and appreciated by people around you. It’s true, we face obstacles along the way, but most of the time, we make them look bigger than they are. Smiling makes life light!
- What are you grateful for? Happy people don’t have the best, they just make the best out of what they have. Very often we take things for granted; we forget to appreciate the gifts that life makes for us. Gratitude is a boost for happiness. When we express our gratitude, we breathe life that is happening around us. We are happy and we make people around us happy too.
- Who or what do I need to forgive? For-giving is gift you make to yourself. It doesn’t mean pretending that nothing happened. It means realizing that something did actually happen, it hurt you, but you release that heavy burden. Is carrying it with you, changing the circumstances or hurting the person who hurt you or hurting yourself? What’s the point of hurting yourself? You cannot embrace the new if you keep getting stuck in the past. Forgiving means giving yourself the permission to move on with your life and make room in your heart for new amazing experiences.
- What’s your dream? Dreams express your deepest values, what you believe in, they say who you are. It’s important to daydream, to visualize what you would like to give to this world and access your potential. If you give up on your dreams, you give up on living.
- What’s your calling? When we feel depressed, it’s because we are too much focused on ourselves. Happiness comes from helping other people. “Get rid of yourself” and focus on what you can do in the world to help other people. You will feel much lighter. What’s your calling? How can you use your unique talents to contribute to the world?
What, out of these questions, relates most to your life right now? Spend some time focusing on that/those questions and go deeper on what you can gain from understanding your response better.
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Lucia Giovaninni is the Heal Your Life Teacher Trainer for Italy, leader of transformational retreats, and a prolific writer and best selling author. She holds a Doctorate in Psychology, a Bachelor in PsychoAntropology and is an international affiliate of APA, American Psychological Association.
If you want to read her book A whole new life, you can download the first chapter for free here https://www.luciagiovannini.com/
