We’ve all heard that affirmations can help boost your self-esteem and change negative thoughts into positive ones. But have you ever tried writing your own and felt like they just weren’t sticking? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Coming up with affirmations and making them a regular practice takes some trial and error. Here are my tips for writing affirmations that you’ll actually feel and believe.

First, get really specific. Vague, generic affirmations like “I am confident” likely won’t do much. Instead, zoom in on an exact situation you struggle with. For example, if public speaking terrifies you, try “I speak clearly and comfortably in front of groups.” Tailor it to a real challenge you face.

Next, use “I am” or “I can” statements in the present tense. Saying “I will be confident” puts the change in the future rather than embracing it now. Statements like “I am a capable public speaker” or “I can handle unexpected questions easily” are more powerful.

Keep it positive but realistic. Don’t affirm things that are totally unbelievable, like “I am the life of every party.” Start with small wins you can gradually work towards. Believing your affirmations is key.

Repeat them out loud, not just in your head. Hearing the words come out of your mouth helps you internalize them. Bonus points if you can do this in front of a mirror to strengthen the mental connection.

Practice daily, even when you don’t feel like it. Like any new habit, affirmations take consistent work to take root. Try first thing in the morning and before bed or whenever anxiety hits.

I hope these tips help you craft affirmations that are truly meaningful and motivating for your unique situation. Remember to be patient as you develop more self-confidence – small steps will take you far. Soon, those positive thoughts will start to feel like the truth.